My name is Jenn, and I'm a 27 year old married and babied chick. In addition to a husband, a seven year old daughter, and a five year old autistic son, I also have four cats, three hermit crabs, two frogs, a few fish, and one snorty little Pug. I work from home doing a variety of writing and even some web design. I love blogging, digital photography and web design.
Every time things escalate between us to where he is either screaming, running around in one of his rages, throwing something at me (twice now), or the few times he’s physically raised a hand to me, the reasoning behind it is always the same.
“Well, you yelled at me/you attacked me/you insulted me/you used a nasty tone of voice.”
First of all, one big problem is that using a not-pleasant tone of voice is not the same thing as yelling. Yelling indicates a raised voice, not a tone of voice that is one of displeasure, disappointment, frustration or annoyance.
And one thing we don’t do is insult one another. We express our frustrations or issues with one another, but we never resort to name calling or mud throwing. It’s just not necessary. So, I have no idea where the insult issue comes from.
He threw Alyssa’s slinky at me today. What did I do? I asked him in a frustrated tone of voice if he would please call his brother (this was the third time I asked him), since I can’t just whip up dinner in five or ten minutes.
Ugh.
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