My name is Jenn, and I'm a 27 year old married and babied chick. In addition to a husband, a seven year old daughter, and a five year old autistic son, I also have four cats, three hermit crabs, two frogs, a few fish, and one snorty little Pug. I work from home doing a variety of writing and even some web design. I love blogging, digital photography and web design.
Today my husband felt the need to tick off, one by one, the items that I wouldn’t be getting for Christmas, because there simply wasn’t money left over after buying gifts for Alyssa, Ryan, my family and his family. Included in his list was a diamond ring and a lotion set from Victoria’s Secret that I have been coveting since last year, when under his supervision Alyssa got into what I had and used it all up on herself, her bed and her stuffed dog. At that time he promised to replace it right away. Right away never came.
Am I overreacting for being really, really hurt? He throws what I won’t be getting for Christmas (as opposed to the two things I will be getting, one I already know due to him tossing his spare cash AND the receipt for the item at me last week, the other because Alyssa was rearranging presents and pulled it out, and by the weight, size and “liquid” sound it’s pretty obvious that it is some sort of wine or champagne) in my face in a rude, careless, it’s-all-your-fault manner because HE couldn’t be bothered to put aside money on any of the other 364 days between last Christmas and today. And it’s all my fault. Of course. As if I should have known ahead of time that he was going to wait until the last minute to buy gifts for me, rather than take the smart route like I did and buy something here and there beginning in NOVEMBER. You know, almost two months BEFORE Christmas?
I can definitely see why you’re upset, I would be too, it seems extremely insensitive! o.O
The funny thing you seem to be forgetting, is that every single dollar I make ends up going straight into your hands before I get a chance to even THINK of spending anything. For a majority of my checks over the year, I never even cashed them myself: I just signed them over to you to cash and take care of bills and such. Even the times when I did manage to get $20 or so for myself, 99% of the time I ended up spending it for gas, or for those nights when you’d ask me to stop at Wal-Mart and pick up something for you or the kids. I haven’t had hardly any money to spend on myself over the past year, let alone to save up and spend on you. So yes, unfortunately, I do blame you for not having any money to buy your presents with. Not only that, but I *have* been asking you repeatedly over the past month to put aside some money so I could get you some presents. That’s why I kept getting upset when you’d go out and buy presents for someone else instead when you actually had the money. I’m sorry I was a jerk and told you the things you weren’t getting, but I’m really just as upset as you are about it. I really wanted to do something nice for you for Christmas.